Fort Lauderdale, Florida ~ What Fun!

Recently my husband and I got to go to Fort Lauderdale, Florida for a long weekend.  We left on Friday morning and returned on Monday night. 

This is not something we normally do – run away for a weekend that is…. but we just left all our cares and worries behind and did it.  We only told those who needed to know, and sorry to those of you who wondered where we were!  The main reason we did it —  was that I won this trip from VisitFlorida.com – and we were so ready to get away from the cold!

View from our Window
View from our Window

First I want to say, if you don’t think people win these things — you are wrong!  They really do.  I am proof of that.  This isn’t the first time I have won a trip either — so if you do nothing else, go over to VisitFlorida.com and enter to win one of their remaining giveaways.  They are giving away a prize each week for 50 weeks, and there are still lots of them to win!

This win was a surprise ~ they always are ~  and it was one in which required that we leave fairly quickly.  That was because it was centered around a performance called “Jazz in the Garden” which was happening on Saturday and Sunday night of this trip in Fort Lauderdale.

Not only did we get free passes to both nights of the performances, but we also got so much more!  We got our airfare, rental car, hotel, $50 a day for meals, and a VIP card to mention a few of the other goodies. 

We loved and used those VIP cards to visit the Bonnet House, take the Water Taxi everywhere, and to visit the Museum of Art, the Butterfly House and more.  Exploring Fort Lauderdale for a weekend was really both relaxing and fun!

So thank you VisitFlorida.com – you really made this one of the best trips I have ever been on.

Pictures from the Butterfly House, Ft. Lauderdale, FL (2013)
Pictures from the Butterfly House, Ft. Lauderdale, FL (2013)

 **Disclosure – I was not compensated in any way for this post. All opinions expressed are 100% my own. I was under no obligation to write this piece.

Variables ~ and the 10 Year Plan

Do you have a 10 year plan?  Where do you want to be in 10 years?  Have you made any type of plan for where you want to be in the future, and how you intend to get there? or do you just let it happen?

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Variables all around me in our economy and world has caused my new plan to be stalled.   Why? Because my personality doesn’t really like to make a decision (about the plan) without knowing all the variables.  I like to be able to see the path from beginning to end, and then carefully chart my course.  Checking off the milestones and making decisions along the way according to the plan is just the way I usually like to roll. 

I haven’t ever written down my plan on paper.  But I really did have a list of things I wanted to accomplish in life from when I was a child and although they were vague …. I wanted to marry, have children, have a house of my own, save a million dollars … you get the idea. Later this list became revised, to include living debt free, having a business, saving for the boys college education, and being a grandmother. 

Planning and thinking about these things helps build a framework to a goal. It gives you a direction and a reason to forgo some of life’s instant pleasures for the joy of making the goal happen.  So many people could benefit from doing this.  It isn’t easy by any means, but it gives you something to work for and towards — and it’s a worthwhile endeavor.

Just think of the things that “could be” easier to deal with, if you planned ahead.  Things like the type of education you wanted, your education costs, how much your first house might cost,  where you might like to settle down, or what you goal/dream job would be? 

Years ago, you could put together a workable plan pretty easily.  You saved a certain amount, you received actual interest that made it look like you were gaining on your goal, and you were “on your way”.   You bought a house, and knew “down the line” you could sell it for more than you paid for it ~basically a fairly secure investment in your future~ as well as it being your home.  You worked hard for an employer who had a retirement plan so that you’d have that safety net and today …. nothing is guaranteed.  Don’t get me wrong, nothing was guaranteed before either, but it was assumed to be so, and usually was — so that the plan had a secure footing to build upon.

Part of it,  I know is my personality – like it or not I do try and choose my path, and plan the way to the goal without considering if, or what “could be” if I changed that path along the way.   I do consider the variables before I start, but once en route I really don’t think about them much.  Most of the time, and through most of my life, my paths have not been hindered by large obstacles or horrific circumstances.

Today the variables seem to be all around me outnumbering the choices. All are vying for my attention – chose this way, chose that way…. oh no, don’t do that, do this instead.  Because of where the economy is, where it might be in a few years, and my age,  the variables seem to be overpowering any long term decision making.  So until I can work to “clear a reasonable path” for our next 10 years, I think I’ll put the plan on hold.

Do you “plan” and if you do, how are you getting around your obstacles to make it happen?

 

SINKHOLES

Sinkholes are scary, unpredictable, and so annoying. You just never know when one might happen or where. And while there are certain places where they are “more likely” to occur, thousands occur each year, and they are increasing in frequency.

Geologists estimate that approximately 10% of the Earth’s surface has the potential to be prone to sinkholes. The cause is sometimes different in each case and while some are naturally caused, others aren’t. Things like sandy or loose soil, abandoned mines, fracking, new construction, acidic groundwater, aged and leaking water pipes as well as other causes are adding to their numbers. Anytime the support system under the ground breaks down or if the weight of the land surface changes, underground collapses (and then sinkholes) can be triggered.

They are common in some places like Florida or Guatemala, but they have been occurring with regular frequency in other US states as well as in Venezuela and China.

The one that just happened last week in Florida where a man apparently lost his life (I use the word “apparently” because I read they are not going to try and recover his body) was caused by water erosion of the bedrock below the land surface of their house. It is unusual for there to be loss of life with sinkholes.

This would actually be the perfect way to “disappear off the face of the earth.” I know you are thinking, how cruel, a man lost his life after all.

But seriously, they put mementos into that approximately 60 ft. deep hole and then dumped in gravel to fill it in. It was determined that the ground around the hole was too unstable to attempt a rescue, or “recovery” attempt. I understand that we don’t want to put any more lives in danger. I know it’s unstable, but I also feel like if they could bring a dump truck full of stone and equipment to knock down the rest of the house… couldn’t they try more than just lowering a microphone and video equipment to find any signs of life. Or to be sure he was dead? I guess not. The sinkhole occurred Thursday night and by Friday afternoon, they presumed that Jeffrey was dead.

And therein lies the perfect start for a novel.

Watch your Text Messages

Text messages never before seemed  like any kind of a threat since I have “unlimited messaging” but there’s a new way they could be!

I hardly ever use my phone in general and text messages in particular.  I have an ancient phone which I can almost never find when I need it.  And admittedly I am definitely not “up to date”  with the technological advances in phone technology.  My husband and I will joke with each other when we need some tidbit of information in the car… saying “just look that up on your phone” but of course we don’t have a phone that can even come close to doing anything like that.

The text message I received seemed harmless — somebody from a ringtone place saying that I was signed up for as many free ringtones as I wanted — or something like that.  I ignored it right along with the ones from the local Wawa or Kwik Chek  which offers me a deal on a sandwich or a coffee.  I never respond to any of them and quite honestly, they pile up as messages for quite some time before I even get to open my phone to know I have them.  That’s right I don’t use my phone every day.  I almost never can find it when it rings, and I certainly don’t use one of those unique ringtones.   However, I have to admit “emergency” cases have come up over the years and I am glad I have one — I just am not that connected to it.  

So imagine my surprise when the next month on my phone bill I discover at charge for $9.99.  I haven’t a clue what it is, and why it’s there.  I think it’s because I pushed the wrong number into my phone when trying to use it, I think I might have some sort of feature I don’t know about and activated it by mistake.  What I do know is that I don’t want it, whatever it is and I sure don’t want to pay $9.99 for it.

 Cell Phone Ringtone   Yes, it turns out it’s a ringtone scam.  They find your cell number by “any means they can” and then they send you a message about having been signed up for free and unlimited ringtones.  If you do not respond with “STOP” – you get charged $9.99 a month as an access fee to this “free unlimited ringtone” service.  Now you never asked for this, you have no clue why they called your number, but they will bill you as a third party biller through your cell phone service provider for it, each and every month until you cancel it.

   We caught ours the first month, because we read our bills and yes, try to figure out and make sense of any odd charges, or unexpected balance.  Anyone on an automatic payment deduction from their bank account each month, might not notice or care or think about this $9.99.  Many would actually just “assume” their plan or the taxes attached to their plan went up….and this is how and why this particular scam works so well.

So while you can’t hide your cell number from these new thieves – you can check your bill and make sure you aren’t one of their victims.  Our provider was happy to provide the short code to send a ‘stop” message to this company on the same phone the message was originally sent to,  and even waited till I received a confirmation on the phone from them.  She removed the charge off my bill — and per my request blocked all premium services like this one from my phone.  You may not be able to block premium services as I know many of you use them every day – but you can and should make sure that you aren’t a victim to this type of scam. 

Sweepers – Have you been labeled and disqualified?

I just recently read of something pretty annoying to me.  It’s about a “blog contest” which has put the blog owner in a sort of a quandary.  She ran the contest per the sponsors’ instructions, and at the end picked a random winner.  The winners’ entries were verified (the entrant completed the mandatory and optional choices to receive her entries legitimately).  She notified the winner, and then notified the sponsor who (in almost all cases) is responsible for the prize fulfillment. 

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  However that’s when the issue occurred.  The sponsor told the blog owner that they would not be awarding the prize to this winner because she was a “sweeper” and “she had won previously”, and that the blog owner should pick another winner.  Does being a sweeper disqualify you from winning?  Does winning one or more of their giveaways disqualify you from ever winning again?  How does one get labeled a sweeper?  Does winning separate contests from the same sponsor mean they will disqualify you – at whim, or randomly, for no good reason?  As far as I can know, this person entered in good faith – where she might have tweeted, or pinned, or shared on  Facebook, or maybe signed up for a newsletter, etc. just as all the other entrants had done.  And even if she has done this on every single promotion this sponsor has run, and has won previously, what makes this person now ineligible to win?

The blog owner didn’t want to pick a new winner.   She had already notified the legitimate winner.  There was no discussion about letting the sponsor know who won in advance of notifying the winner, there was no discussion, language or rule known to the blog owner or entrant, that allowed the sponsor to make this “arbitrary” decision.  The blog owner feels as if she is now in a precarious position because the alleged “sweeper” did all that was required of her, and was picked randomly and fairly. 

The issue is – Can the sponsor disqualify a winner for this reason if it was not stated upfront to both the blog owner and the entrants?  Can they just keep having random winners picked till they “agree”  on a  person who is OK to win the prize?  Can you pick your friend, sister-in-law or aunt if they happened to enter and you wanted them to have the prize?  Can and do sponsors of blog contests make lists of people they will NOT allow to win in their contests? 

How do you feel about this way of doing business – this fixing of the contest, this outright manipulation of the results?  We’d all be naive if we thought blog owners, or sponsors never did some of this.  I’ll bet they do it daily in one way or another (like just never sending the prize out to the winner).  I feel that no matter whom you are, why you entered, how many times you entered – if you entered legitimately – and were chosen randomly – you deserve the prize.

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If this promotion clearly had stated that you cannot win a second time from this company, or that once you won from them, you were never able to win again from this sponsor, I might think differently.  But I believe that it’s really sneaky that the sponsor doesn’t mention that they will chose the winner in a fashion that might not be fair, and  have the right to determine who you are, label you and then disqualify you at whim. 

I am not a lawyer, and I don’t work for the FTC (who might be the one who regulates things like this), so I don’t really know what to say.  As a blog owner the lack of ethical behavior on the part of the sponsor, and their lack of honesty really appalls me.  Actually it makes me a bit angry – because they really are treating the winner as a cheater who shouldn’t win because they’ve already awarded her a prize in a previous giveaway.  This entrant spread their message and basically did marketing for them by tweeting, sharing and entering, just like every other entrant hoping to win.  Nowhere did they give her any indication she was doing all that work for THEM for nothing as they had no intention of awarding her the prize.

I don’t personally know this blog owner, I haven’t ever to my knowledge hosted a giveaway by this sponsor and I am not the winner in this instance.  I have no investment in the outcome of this particular case but  I wrote this article because it’s annoying to me to know that even when you think people are running legitimate contests (and most are), behind the scenes sponsors are manipulating the outcome.

**No one paid or influenced me in any way to write this article, the contents are 100% my own opinions about an injustice that had come to my attention regarding a specific blog contest sponsor. 

UPDATE:  The sponsor in question has decided to award the prize to the “sweeper” who actually won!  This is good news although the sponsor said they have rules on their actual site that say they have the FINAL say in these matters and that they can make this type of decision.  I believe if they want this type of rule,  just make sure everyone knows it, and sees it before they enter.  And remember.. with them saying they have the final say ~ that  could mean just about anything.  I can tell you, they are certainly not going to get any blog entries from me – I have better things to do with my time.